There is a part of me that's nervous about the idea of my blog going all "Mommy". It's not that I think anyone will stop reading it, because, frankly, very few people do anyway. I just don't want to be one of those people who can ONLY talk about her baby. It's really not the only thing going on in my life right now (though a lot of the time I wish it was. . . I need a nap). BUT, it IS going on in my life. . . so sometimes I'm just going to have to go there.
Pregnancy has been relatively easy on me. But that doesn't mean I like it. (I say this with no ill will toward my unborn child who has absolutely no control over how he or she must come into this world, of course)
I think I can safely say, with no hesitation whatsoever, that pregnancy sucks. BIG TIME. I've only thrown up once during this whole "morning sickness" dance, and I still hate it. I know there are women out there who love it. I hate all of you too. . . sorry. You make the rest of us feel guilt over NOT liking to be pregnant.
I am starting to feel better, really. The nausea is subsiding. The lower back/leg pain is replacing it, however. And it is this point that makes me question a lot of my decisions up to this point.
I am a pill popper. Always have been. Everything from Advil to migraine prescriptions to Lortab are on my list of go-to cures when I hurt. I have always lived by the principle, if I can fix it fast by taking something, why not? I'm careful not to overdo any of them. I only take Lortab on the really really bad back days. And it's not as if I take something EVERY day. But I'm certainly not afraid to self-medicate either. I am recently questioning that choice. Because now. . . now I'm stuck with tylenol. Tylenol does absolutely nothing for me. If I was one of those people that treated my ailments more "naturally", I'd probably be a bit less grumpy these days. . . Maybe I'll have to look into that idea after this is all over with. . . And I've had my full strength epidural to deliver this child.
This is what the wee one looks like this week. It's the size of a large lemon, and now likes to squirm like nobody's business just to remind me he/she is there. As I said yesterday. . . a bizarre feeling.
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oh, yes. I'm pissed. I'm 31, been TTC for 4 years, and now that I'm pregnant, I'm nauseous, thrown up for the first time today (yay me), can't sleep well, tired all the time, have to work with whiny women all day and there is nobody to complain to because I can't complain (nobody wants to hear it). I don't wanna complain but I feel awful!!!! Thanks to you for being someone else out there who felt crappy, too.
Thank You! I have been on babycenter.com and I am so sick of the happy mommies! I just wanted to bitch for a minute and was asked if the baby was an "oops baby." Geez. There is such a thing of too much of a good thing (like a positive outlook). I just googled, "pregnancy sucks" and here I am. Is there a website for pregnant people who aren't so chipper?
I too was pleased to find an "honest" (or, at least, similar) account of a pregnancy. Out of the thousands of pregnancy books I've looked at, the only one that even deals with the concept of suckiness is a book for men. Go figure.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! Finally someone who gets it. I am in week 9 and let me tell you, this is sucking big time. Not to mention that one week before I started a new job, I found out I was pregnant. Same as you--thrilled and cannot wait to meet the little one. But this whole "Earth-Mother" thing is for the birds. Tylenol?? Ruffage & Water?? Are they kidding with this stuff? I haven't thrown up yet, but I can barely keep it together with the woozy, nausea nightmare, tiredness and other fun. You are NOT alone sister--thanks for letting me vent & good luck!
I know what you mean!!! I'm 36 weeks pregnant and if its not one sucky thing... its another! I threw up EVERY day for 4 months! After being relieved of that.. I had MOOD SWINGS.. I'd be in such a bad mood that I was a bitch to everyone, then cried b/c i felt bad for being so evil! Leg Cramps, Peeing every 5 mins, heartburn, backaches, headaches, oh and not to forget when baby decides to stick their foot in your ribs. Do those "happy mommies" go thru any of this?¿?
dude i totally feel you. I hate those mommies who "loved pregnancy" give me a break. this is my first and it has been the most challenging aspect of my life up till now. i cant wait till this is over and I can get on with my so-called life. not that im not thrilled to have the ability to bring a child into the world but seriously, its not easy!! I agree with you as well, i do not want having a child be the only thing that defines me. I try to continue to be myself but with all the stipulations, this seems to consume me instead of becoming another aspect of my life. where is the balance? time will tell I guess. thanks for the honesty! i feel so much better!!!
good luck!
At first i thought, gee i can handle this... no problem, right? ive only thrown up once myself, but it still sucks... i still feel sick all the time. I cant do anything i want to do! I cant get in my damn hot tub, i cant eat sushi (my favorite), no raw meat, no caffine, no pills, no alcohol. It goes on and on.. Pregnancy SUCKS
How do does anyone enjoy this!! I'm 11 weeks and I'm practically counting the minutes till this is over with!! 40 weeks how am I going to make it! THIS SUCKS! I'm so sick, I'm crazy! My husban can't figure out the rollercoaster and I have a new found strong dislike for him! So glad I'm not the only one.
Hi, I never thought I would write on one of these but was just looking for something to make me feel better on the internet about how awful I feel and none of my symptoms match... I am 19 weeks, I think, and anyway where is this "surge of energy" and "end to the nauseousness." I am in my second trimester and have waited patiently for this so called "happy time" to start and I am tired, sick and have headaches all the time. To spite the fact that I don't eat that much because I feel sick all the time I still feel like an elephant oh and I cry all the time... is there anyone else in their 2nd trimester that still feels like shit?? Thanks for listening and for making me feel better!!
Hey there Miss Anonymous who posted just before me,
You aren't the only one to feel crappy during second trimester. With my first I was pretty much housebound until 26 weeks. I could count on one hand the amount of times I left the house, and they were all midwife or chiropractic appointments. (I love my chiropractor.) I was so slow I was being over taken by old ladies with walking frames.
This time I'm not housebound, but am still nauseous virtually every waking minute. Worse, hubby has to work late for the next fortnight, so he's not even here to be nice to me.
Labour ain't so great either, but it's the best cure for pregnancy!!
Whinge as much as you like, ladies, there's nothing glamorous about motherhood.
Pregnancy does suck, I feel like crap all of the time and I am SOOO tired of everyone who we tell being overly excited when all I want to say is "I hate this!" It's not just feeling sick that I hate, I am not excited about being a mother. Is something wrong with me? I'm 39 and got married almost 5 months ago. Never thought I could get pregnant, doctors told me that for years, and didn't really want to, and BAM! I'm pregnant. How do I cope with this? Not only am I about to get as big as a house, but I feel no joy about becoming a mother.
Let me say I'm on my 2nd pregnancy, threw up or had very gross heartburn EVERY day of my ENTIRE first pregnancy & am NOT pleased to still be sick, tired, throwing up at 16 weeks this time...I
I will say though, that as much as I don't like it & give my husband tangible grief that he doesn't have to go through this *ish I know that all the pregnancy stips force you to learn how to think, eat, drink, LIVE more moderately & with your child first. I never planned on kids/marriage but here I am a married exec. SICK of being sick but seeking lessons in it (lesons yes but I'm still really sick of still being sick in second trimester) :-p It will be wprth it next year, it was with my first
I just googled, "pregnancy sucks" :))) This whole thing just freaks me out big time. What gets to me is this: all the wonderful things that happen in your body (illustrated with a big smiley picture of mother and child) and then there is a list of vomitimg, back aches, parted abdominal muscles, weight gain, varicose veins,hemorrhoids, oh and the risks to the baby ect. "Isn't is ironic? Don't you think? A little tooooo ironic......"
I googled "pregnancy sucks" and got here like several others. I am 9 and 1/2 weeks and life BLOWS!!!! I have an 11 yer old and remember being sick all nine months, but I know I did not feel like this! I find my husband repulsive! Every time he kisses me I want to BARF! His breath is so flippin putrid and I hate him near me in general. I am tired all the time, cranky, feel hopeless, have no motivation, i'm bloated and feel stuffed all the time, and having a bowel movement only happens when I use an enima! How much fun does all that sound? Really, where is the beauty in having the ability to carry a child. I just can't wait for it to end!
all those women who say they love being pregnant are liars. who loves barfing and feeling like a beach whale? pleease.
God bless you ladies- I can't stand being pregnant- in my 8th week. Not to mention I'm diabetic. So I have to take a million shots a day. I also got here by googling pregnancy sucks. Thank you all for sharing and making me feel like I'm not alone. THat and why is everyone "soooooo happy" for me? It's great that we can create life- but so can half of the rest of the world. I'm not feeling happy these days- I'm fat, nauseous, have a constantly runny nose, and pass gas nonstop. Not to mention I can't stay awake for more than 3 hours straight. Maybe people should start saying they're "soooooo sorry" for me once they hear I'm prego. Can't wait to deliver! Keep your chins up girls! It will be over in no more than 9 months!
I am almost 9 weeks pregnant and I think this whole experience sucks. I have already had to be hospitalized for severe dehydration from vomiting. I'm nauseated all the time in addition to just plain tired. I can't wait for this experience to be over. Who would decide to do this more than once???
For 1 yr I was raging jealous of every pregnant woman, and now that I am 8 weeks along I've transferred my jealousy--no make that hatred-- for all the glowing, happy, never-felt-better pregnant woman. Like everyone I am constantly nauseated and vomit multiple times a day...but there is relief from the vomiting (not the nausea though). Hasn't anyone turned to Zofran/ Ondanestron? I used it during my first pregnancy to stay alive and am using it again. Good luck and it is worth it in the end. But 2x of this hell on earth is my limit. Hang in there. Watch a lot of TV.
I can stand the sickness and throwing up part...maybe...maybe even the headaches and dizziness,but,for Christ sake...the part that really sucks is going though hell and having everyone around you saying how selfish you are for keeping the baby in the first place,and these are my friends I'm talking about.How am I supposed to feel any kind of hope through all this crap when everyone acts like I'm being such a bitch?
Pregnancy does indeed suck. I'm almost 12 weeks and have thrown-up practically every day since week 6. -- 3 times before 10:00am on my worst day.
I was prescribed Zofran, but the side effect (constipation) was so bad that I had to stop. Seriously. Abdominal pains that were so intense I thought, "Do Braxton Hicks contractions start this early?"
I adopted my first child and will definitely be adopting the next if there are three in our future.
Oh, bless you all for sharing your complaints and fears and HONEST feelings. I don't feel so completely alone in my negative feelings about pregnancy/nausea/vomiting/fatigue/depression (the whole lot.)
Someone asked this question earlier, but I'm posing it again, does anyone know of a website, one like www.indiebride.com but for pregos? Basically a forum where real women aren't trying to play into a false fantasy, but instead being honest about their experiences. Anyone?
sonya,
While I was pregnant, I found babycenter.com. I would suggest it for all of the whining/complaining/venting you need to do (because heaven knows your hubby won't want to hear it all)
Good luck with your pregnancy. I haven't change my stance. Pregnancy sucks. Motherhood is hard. But they are awfully cute too :)
Amen. This is my 4th pregnancy and I am only 7 weeks and feel like the life and energy have been zapped out of me. I would never wish this on anyone. I am 37 and just came back to my parents house so they can help me with my 4y/o and my 16 month old. My 15 y/o and my dh are back home taking care of the pets and e.t.c.
How pathetic am I??
pregnancy SUCKS SUCKS SUUUUUUUCKKKKSSSS.HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
So glad I've found this blog. I'm so sick of well-meaning family, friends and co-workers asking me for daily updates and talking aobut how much they loved being pregnant. I hate them all - pregnany has been the worst experience of my life.
I did a search for 'only moderately excited about pregnancy' and came to this site. I am so glad to see some other women who feel the same way. I actually feel OK (no sickness or vomiting), but am just not that excited about the rest of the process. I don't want to get all stretched out. I am almost 10 weeks and have told 3 people (husband, doctor, personal trainer) and have NO interest in telling anyone else. I do not want to be treated like a pregnant person and have to go through all of the annoying questioning. Is it possible to keep it a secret until, say, the 8th month??? Because I haven't told anyone, my only pregnant contacts have been on babycenter.com and they make me want to puke more than anything else. Thanks for letting me rant on here.
I get what you all mean! I couldn't wait to get pregnant and now I live out in the boonies with my husband; and a mile from my in-laws. I'm 14 weeks and am vomiting more than the last 13 weeks, not to mention now I have heartburn that is pretty much untouched by Zantac. Everyone is so freaking excited for me including my mother in law who was by-the-way never sick a day in any of her 4 pregnancies with her FOUR boys...labor does not seem like the worst part of pregnancy yet...
I did a search on "pregnancy sucks" in google and your blog came up. I'm 6 weeks pregnant and feels awful. I can hardly eat anything and in the morning I throw up whatever I eat. I cannot even drink enough water coz that makes up throw up. This whole thing sucks...thanks for your blog. I'm not the only one is feeling this way.
Thanks for the honesty. Being in denial sucks more than being pregnant! Don't get me wrong I love that I'm going to have a baby. Nobody warned my about the suckiness of the process. I'm six weeks. I got sore boobs, mood swings and morning sickness. Thanks for letting me vent and I wish you all healthy babies and a less sucky pregnancy
Oh my goodness, thanks for this blog! This is NOT fun. I'm 7 weeks and I can't shake this nausea! I have violent chills and hot flashes until I can't sleep at night! The gas is HORRIBLE! Oh, and my DH. I can't stand his smell anymore. He keeps wanting to have sex but I can't bring myself to do it. AAARRRGGH! I'll be glad when this is over and I have my baby in my arms...
I agree. I feel truly awful. Sick all the time, and really tired. And I am finding all the 'earth mother' rubbish out there really annoying. All the people that say 'yes, my hips got permanently wider, and I have stretch marks, but it's OK, I'm proud of them, they're my battle scars'. All I want to say to those idiots is 'shut up you horrible person, it is not OK'.
Thank heavens for this blog! I did the same as many and searched pregnancy sucks! I am 10 weeks and swear I will never do this again. Aside from all the other crap, I have severe depression and don't know how to deal with it, talk therapy doesn't work, but I don't trust the meds out there because they are all eventually shown to cause one birth defect or another. I hate my life right now and can't wait for this crap to be over! I'm scared to death that depression will get worse, and have a funny feeling it will. I'm already looking in to sterilization for after!
I feel like i'm not even in my own body! First 2 pregnancies were great! Now married for the second time, hubby has been through pregnancy with 2 other women. He wanted me to have his child and wooed me into the beauty of a little "us". Now, 22 weeks along with his only son, he treats me worse than i could ever have imagined! Which maked me feel trapped, and against this child!! I feel totally alone and dont want this baby to come between myself and 2 children I already have! ADVICE: Don't divorce,,and if you do, dont remarry!! At least not if you have children!!
I thought I hated my first pregnancy because I was alone and mildly ashamed and absurdly scared about the whole situation. Once All the crappy effects of pregnancy went away (when my daughter was 6 months old) I enjoyed life again. I am now married and do want another child and I am excited for that part again, but MAN...PREGNANCY SUCKS. I have been either sick or in extreme pain this whole 32 weeks.
I feel for all you girls who hate this at 9-14 weeks...it gets no better.
I really appreciate knowing that I am not the only woman out there who thinks we get a raw deal on this procreation thing.
thanks for the opportunity to vent.
good luck ladies. This sucks, but watching your child grow is awesome...way better seperate from your body..:)
Pregnancy is the WORST! I'm sure what ever little living creature is born from this experience will be worth it, BUT I will NEVER get pregnant again. 9 months is forever. I'm only 12 weeks and don't think I can take another evening/night of feeling awful and depressed. All of those crazy people who think pregnancy is joyful and glowy, then you can have my baby.
Look at how many mothers you made happy by posting your blog...I feel the exact same as you! Don't you love how you walk into a store and it smells bad so you have a nasty look on your face and the clerk is like "I'm going as fast as I can ma'am." Then you have to explain to them that your prego (which makes you feel like your gloating) and then they ask you how long your are and you tell them and they stare at you b/c its still really early in the pregnancy but your already showing...yeah. I hate the world right now and I'm cussing 10x's more than I was before, in turn, everyone stares at me like I'm a horrible mother already and I always get the feeling their thinking "wow, she's a bitch." Oh well, just a few more months right?
The comments about hating your husbands made me lol. Seriously. I can't stand my partner's breath either. And then I get accused of ignoring or neglecting. WTF?! I can't even stand when you touch me why would I want to touch you? We can have sex as long as you don't touch me and I don't have to move.
Whoever named it morning sickness must have been a man. I feel like I'm on a boat all day long and I can't get off.
Being pregnant sucks. I had my first ultrasound yesterday and I can't even stand to look at the picture because this baby makes me sick!!
And wtf why don't any of my pants fit? I'm only 8 weeks and I *literally* gained 6 pounds overnight.
I went on a vacation for a week last week and I swear people at work must think that I got a boob job because I am busting out of my shirt.
I just wish this sea-sick hangover would end. And I hope everyone is right...you know the ones who say "it's all worth it" cuz right now I just want to puke on thier size 6 pants.
OMG I`m so happy to find this page. I was feeling so bad `cause all the people are so happy I`m pregnant beside me, who is throwing up non stop have pain, cant sleep and is sick. I was thinking soemthin g is wrong with me cause I`m not happy but now I see more of you feel the same way!I don`t hate my child but I hate being pregnant! I have no idea how people can say ìt`s magical time. sure hanging with the head above toilet is so magic... I am so tired of being sick and tired.
This is why Diclectin was invented ladies. Ask your doctor, you will never feel morning sickness again. Everyone I know that has been pregnant has used it and has healthy happy babies.
While i totally agree with you, relly, because it works great for me. . . I can't take it during the day, as it puts me to sleep. It's great at night, though.
I'm so glad im not alone. This is my first baby, and im thrilled and excited to meet my little boy but i cant STAND this anymore!! Im 33 weeks pregnant, and let me tell you, ive always strictly wanted no less than three kids. This might be my only child now. I'm NOT Happy in any way. I was a very small girl, five foot two inches and only 115lbs. NOTHING stops the stretch marks. I put lotion on LITERALLY five to seven times a day and im still completely covered in dark purple lines. I have always had a hard time gaining weight, its always freaked me out. and going from being small to weighing 164 IS NOT good on my selfesteem. especially since this wasnt a planned pregnancy. Sigh. it feels good to vent to someone, all of my pregnant friends LOVE it. -.-
pregnancy sucks,i hsve 2 kids and pregnant with my third ,i must have been out of my mind to try for a third apparently you kind of forget your horrible experience with previous pregnancies,i am sick all day ,tired have indigestion and heart burn,constipation and above all depression,i don't want to do anything and lie in bed all day feeling sorry for myself and guilty that i am not taking careproperly of my kids,my hubby or my house ,to be honest i almost wish i get a miscarriage i feel like a horrible mom already
I am 7 weeks pregnant for the first time. I feel sick everyday: Burping, passing gas, hiccups, peeing so much, nausea, fatigue, decrease in appetite, and constipation. My husband still wants to be intimate with me and I have to remind him how much I don't feel like doing it. Luckily, I have not vomited yet, but feel like it will happen soon. Saltine crackers, tangerines, and ginger ale somewhat help me feel temporarily less nauseous. Why does pregnancy have to suck this bad? I hope the end justifies the means. I'm miserable.
I am 13 weeks and have felt awwwwwwful the entire time. I have had nausea and vomiting since week 6... but it really got bad around week 8 and has stayed intense (vomiting 1-8 times every day, constant nausea, vomiting when I move too much, vomiting from smells, etc.). Since early on, I have not been able to stand the smell of my boyfriend. He recently has stopped smoking, which has helped, but things he eats affect his smell as well.
I pretty much can't stand the sight of him. I don't want to have sex at all (I've *never* felt like that before) and I am disgusted just by the sight of numerous things. I also have had bouts of heartburn, constipation, and terrible gas/bloating. They keep saying it should go away soon - but I threw up 7 times today. Ummmmm, yeah.
I have also had terrible depression and mood swings. I have a history of depression, and it has been pretty bad, very dark. I may not be able to stay with my boyfriend as it is such a stress to be around him. On top of all this, I am a student and have to start student teaching in a week and a half. Will it let up in time? It could last for nine months... I may be screwed.
Oh, and BTW, I also have tried Sea Bands, B6/unisom (aka Diclectin), Promethazine, and Zofran --- none of them worked at all and Zofran gave me a pounding 18-hour headache. Besides, what good are pills when you throw them up half the time anyway?
I'm very worried about how this will go, I'm worried about life/relationship/coping after the birth, I am worried about not being able to finish school. I'm in my 30's so I have some life experience, and I can tell you for sure that PREGNANCY SUUUUUUUUCKS! I hate it, hate it, hate it.
This is a video of my pregnant sister telling us how she really feels about pregnancy. It is relevant to what you wrote so I thought that if you like it you could share with with your readers.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bONw0F6JemQ
I am so excited that you started this blog. I am having my second child, my son is three yrs old. Everyone said that 2nd pregnancies were easier. Well let me clarify that that is not the case for all women. My first pregnancy I was sick with nausea and migraines for 4.5 months. I am very active and was able to make myself excercise through the most part of my pregnancy. All I had to take care of was me! The second trimester was so much better thank God. THis time around I have a 3yr old to look after and that is a job all in itself. WOW no one told me how difficult it would be to be pregnant and have a toddler. I cant just worry about my needs he comes first. When I dont feel good I cant just lay in bed. I can relate to the pill popper bigtime. I have arthritis in both knees d/t running since the age of 16 and insomnia. Both issues I take meds for that can not be taken while pregnant. I can barely walk down the stairs somedays and sleeping forget it. MD says take Benadryl which is just no comparison the sleep meds I take. I guess I will be prepared when the baby comes home. I havent exercised in almost 5 weeks which is huge for me. I read articled of women who were running until they were 8 months pregnant..yah OK not this woman. I just feel depressed that I am not enjoying this more. I should be on the top of the world. We tried for 2 years before we got pregnant. I was just so hopeful it would be different when in fact so far it has been worse than the first time around. I am 11 wks and already feel huge. WAH. Hope this helps those who can relate to know someone else is feeling this way.
when i came across this blog i was sooooo HAPPY. real ppl do exist! im 9 weeks pregnant with my fourth child! i dont know whats up with this pregnancy but ive never experienced anything like what im going through now before. i cant keep any food down...everything taste funny even water! im irritated. time seems to be dragging. im not happy at all. i cant stand up for too long without feeling like im about to faint. i throw up as im attempting to prepare dinner, i even throw up in the shower! REALLY! i sleep ALL DAY! I only leave the house to take my oldest to school and to go get my mail. i can barely interact with my other kids.. i HATE everything and damn near everyone. ive never been chipper about my other pregnancies but damn this one has taken the cake. even the all of a sudden nightmares piss me off. i dont know if im gonna make it. tired of ppl telling me oh its okay you should consider yourself lucky...i just want to say ooohhhh shut the f*** up! ONLY 9 WEEKS IN AND IM DRAINED....THIS PREGNANCY SUCKS ON SO MANY LEVELS...how much longer!
I just went through IVF to get pregnant and now I can't stand being pregnant. It's depressing. I already suffer from anxiety and not having control over my body or mind sucks. I feel so guilty that I'm not enjoying this, especially because it was so hard to get here in the first place. My acupuncturist said to me, 'This is why nobody tells you about all this while you're trying to conceive.' But, I mean, once you're pregnant, can't others, especially others who are currently pregnant let you in on the secret instead of being all rosy and full of bullshit?
I know I didn't make a mistake by going through IVF and I am extremely grateful that it was successful, but I still hate being pregnant. I think it's the contradiction of wanting a baby so bad but not enjoying pregnancy that makes me feel the worst.
Also, I think my husband must be eating poo when I'm not looking because his breath is the grossest smelling thing in the world.
bigI just went through IVF to get pregnant and now I can't stand being pregnant. It's depressing. I already suffer from anxiety and not having control over my body or mind sucks. I feel so guilty that I'm not enjoying this, especially because it was so hard to get here in the first place. My acupuncturist said to me, 'This is why nobody tells you about all this while you're trying to conceive.' But, I mean, once you're pregnant, can't others, especially others who are currently pregnant let you in on the secret instead of being all rosy and full of bullshit?
I know I didn't make a mistake by going through IVF and I am extremely grateful that it was successful, but I still hate being pregnant. I think it's the contradiction of wanting a baby so bad but not enjoying pregnancy that makes me feel the worst.
Also, I think my husband must be eating poo when I'm not looking because his breath is the grossest smelling thing in the world.
Wow, reading these blogs and researching what I am in-for if I did get pregnant makes me not want to do it at all! Those who find pregnancy awesome and beautiful are outright lying to you, it's horrible with morning sickness, aches and pains all the time having to pee constantly and all of that. Not to mention what I would be predisposed to medically - gestational diabetes (I am overweight) post partum depression (I have been diagnosed as depressed already) and I already retain water like crazy!!
Honestly, other than the pre- programmed notion to breed, I don't know WHY in HELL women go through this, and do it repeatedly!! I hope this never happens to me!!
Believe me I have told my fiancee that I don't want to go through this, and how much of a bitch I will turn into (he calls me moody now when I am PMSing) and how he won't be able to touch me. As for sex, I'm not going to want to give it out (if I don't when I am PMSing is any precursor) and he won't want it, from what I have heard, you leak more out of your va jay-jay, he will be grossed out anyway.
Sorry I had to rant, ugh I hate people pushing me to have a kid, I don't care! I know what I am getting into and I already hate it!
I went through fertility stuff, too, and ended up taking Clomid to help get pregnant after several miscarriages. I wanted to get pregnant more than anything and, although I am thrilled that we will be having twins in a few months, I totally feel like crap. I have no lovely pregnancy glow...just gas, bloating, nausea and vomiting that is getting worse as I enter my 2nd trimester. These women that claim to feel beautiful and fantastic when pregnant must be f'n liars. I just want to go to sleep and wake up in a few months when it's all over. Hibernation pregnancy would be awesome.
Thank God!!! Reading all of your comments has made me feel the best I have felt in weeks. I'm only 9 weeks and am already over the whole pregnancy thing. This sucks, this sucks!! I wish my husband could understand what i'm going through, he tells me to "just push through it". Easy for him to say. I hate hangovers and this is like having a hangover every day, all day long.
OMG - THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for posting this!!!!!
What a relief to find this blog! I have hated every single minute of pregnancy. I was sick as a dog for 20 weeks, then immediately after came the sciatica. Now I can't freakin' breathe, feel like my uterus is going to fall out, and my back and hips hurt all the time. This child has taken over my body and my life and I feel totally resentful. I also want to punch the next person who beams at me and says, "But there is a great prize at the end." You mean the sore nipples and hemmroids??
Thank you! I googled "pregnancy sucks" too. This is just what I needed to hear. I have been crying like a school girl from guilt about my feelings. I love this baby but not what is happening to my body. I am 15 weeks an for 9 weeks I have dealt with nausea, vommiting, constipation, body aches, bladder leakage, illness, and recently round ligament pain! In total, I have lost 15 pounds and every time I vomit (at least once a day) I break blood vessels in my face. If that wasn't enough, let's thrown in the constant worry about our unborn child not being born healthy. I'm fortunate to not have to work but I have also not left my house in weeks. My husband is in the military and is gone. I'm over a thousand miles away from my closest family. OH YES! This sucks! Ha ha! Thanks again for posting this blog. I now feel better just venting amongst good company =)
After 7 miscarriages you would think that I would be over the moon about being pregnant, and there is that tiny flicker of candle hope that this one will make it past 14 weeks and won't be a helmet baby due to my age (38) Yeah yeah there ARE hundreds of fucking beautiful women having very healthy babies well into their 40's these days dear but let me explain...I WASN"T READY TO EVEN BEGIN THINKING ABOUT TRYING AGAIN YET. I'm still in therapy for loosing the last one. Now I'm back to cramping, lightning tits, so damn tired I can fall asleep mid sentence, zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz oh sorry about that, and every time I sneeze because of all the congestion, I pee just a little. just enough to feel like I'm back in first grade when my bitch teacher made me pee my pants because we were only allowed to use the toilet once per day. My number one bitch--- Being pregnant makes you stupid! That's right I have a hard time following a sentence all the way to the end. I can't read more than 3 sentences before I fall asleep, and I really don't figure I could think my way out of a wet paper bag right now. I don't want to talk about baby crap to my friends, and I'm already tired of hearing about the kids they already have! I don't want to see or hear about another "the day our angel came into the world" from some damn hippy who only gained 12 pounds through her whole pregnancy! I gained 12 pounds in each tit already and I'm still in the first trimester! WTF!!!! Don't get me wrong, I want the kid, even if does need to wear a helmet, but after 7 goes, if this one doesn't work out- I'm going to China and getting a take-away-baby. All the best to you ladies, it sucks, there's not a damn thing you can do about it, and yeah, there's a baby at the end to look forward to, but isn't that seriously a fucked up consolation prize? "Well done Madame! You've made it through 40 weeks of unending bullshit, and here's a little person to suck away all your money free time and ambition for the next 18-30 years...
Everyone said pregnancy is a beautiful thing...well I say, shut up about your easy pregnancies. This is the worst feeling in my life. Pretty close to when I was in the hospital for a week, close to death because of severe food poisoning. I'm only at 8 weeks, and I have no idea how I'm going to make it to week 40. I'm down sick with a cold, my normal back aches have intensified by 50, I can't eat anything because it makes me sick, my body aches, headaches all the time, can't sleep, and no one understands.
When I was pregnant with my first, I had a headache every day until I delivered and threw up 8+ times a day for 8 months. Not to mention the noise sensitivity, food aversions, tiredness, etc. Then people told me that my second pregnancy would be different and guess what? I'm only 6 weeks and my 24/7 headaches and throwing up (7+ times a day), food aversions are back. I feel horrible, how am I going to get through these next several months? I feel bad, I'm mad at the baby and I know it's not his/her fault, I just HATE HATE HATE being pregnant!! I tried Psi Bands for nausea but those didn't work. I've tried ginger gum, wrapping my head with an ace bandage, soaking my head in epsom salt but nothing is helping these symptoms! I am so not doing this again!!
WOW didn't any of you Google "Pregnancy" before you got pregnant. "Happy mommies" come from strong people who realized what they were getting themselves into before they did it. My wife is 36 weeks and it is just now starting to get bad. So far our experience with pregnancy has been good and so we are "Happy Parents" but not everyone's experience is the same.
To Anonymous who Posted just before me..... Of course we know that life isn't all rosy for everyone and not every pregnancy is great for everyone, but do you think telling people that just should have googled pregnancy to realize what we're getting ourselves into helps AT ALL when you're feeling terrible.
I'm a doctor and my husband and I had to go through
IVF to conceive this very much wanted baby, so I think
I'm aware what pregnancy can be like when it goes bad. But that doesn't mean it doesn't help to hear about and talk to other people having a tough time too.
I developed moderate to severe ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome from IVF which half filled my lungs with fluid, filled my abdomen with fluid, deranged my liver function and electrolytes and had me on best rest for 2 months. On top of that I've had terrible 'morning' sickness and have not been able to eat much between the nausea and vomiting. Now that the hyperstimulation is just settling down I have developed dizziness from dropping blood pressure and reflux so bad it means I'm swallowing acid back down a few times every hour and constantly in pain.
This baby is wanted. But that doesn't mean I have to appreciate feeling so sick or being off work for so long
when we really can't afford it, as I'm the primary earner and IVF isn't cheap, neither is pregnancy or the kid at
the end of it all.
Not all of us have the option to adopt (we live in Australia and there are no countries which Australia is
paired with that will accept us due to my husbands history of leukemia). I think getting a baby without IVF and pregnancy would be GREAT!
I hate everyone trying to tell me about their fantastic pregnancies which they loved and felt great throughout. Do they really not see that not everyone is so lucky?!?
Frankly your comment is condescending and rude. Congratulations on your wife's fantastic pregnancy. Realize you are lucky and that not everyone gets such a great time of it.
I'm 30 years old and 28 weeks on my first (and after this ONLY) pregnancy. No one told me it would be this hard, all my friends and family told me how wonderful their pregnancies were, all the books I read talked about how wonderful you'd feel after the morning sickness ended...They lied. Throughout my pregnancy I've dealt with depression (which I haven't really had to deal with before), severe hip and joint pain from worsening arthritis, pain from sciatica, roller coaster blood sugar even though the tests show I'm not diabetic, constant and unending exhaustion coupled with the inability to stay asleep due to severe hip and back pain and a tiny bladder (yes I take my vitamins, yes I eat bananas, yes I've tried hot showers and lukewarm baths AND yoga AND walking AND Tylenol AND Ambien which my doctor put me on and BTW it doesn't work AND no I can't afford a chiropractor but I have tried massage and THAT was a no go as well) and on top of all that dealing with the feeling that I am no longer myself, that I'm just the vessel carrying around the person everyone REALLY wants to see...Hell my own mother-in-law doesn't even acknowledge me first during greetings!!! She hugs my stomach and talks to the baby before she even tells me hi!!!! Everyone I talk to is "how's the baby" before they even get to telling me hello!!! Yes I wanted this child, yes I want to be a mother, but I STILL WANT TO BE ME. I'm so tired of being tired and in pain and depressed and my doctor just shrugs and says "suck it up, it's part of being pregnant." Thank you so much for writing this blog, I was starting to feel like I was the only one who felt like pregnancy was a torture, no one I know understands what I'm going through right now because they all had their kids when they were still fit and functional and in high school.....I don't think they even remember what pregnancy feels like anymore....I just can't wait for her to be born and I can get on with being a Mommy and get over being Preggers....
I think those people who says they loved being pregnant are liars . Pregnancy sucks and every woman I talk to in my professional world agrees. Being fat and gassy is no fun... it is never charming.
This is my first pregnancy and I'm 11 week along. I can honestly say that I have never been this miserable in my life! We found out about the pregnancy Jan 2nd and a few days later, the "morning" sickness started. So sick I could barely move. Throwing up multiple times a day. And this lasted until last week. Finally I'm not feeling quite as sick anymore, and it's been about a week without throwing up. But it's still no fun at all...all the stuff going through my head is a nightmare! I actually worry in my sleep. I worry about what Medicaid covers and what it doesn't. I worry about if I'm even going to be a good mom, because even though I've dreamed of being a mom my whole life, I'm so uncomfortable being pregnant, that it's hard to be excited. I worry about how all this worry is affecting my baby. I worry about how claustrophobic I feel. I worry about how depressed I've been getting. And I'm honestly looking forward to this just being over so I can be myself again instead of this unfun, overly emotional, crazy person. I want to be me again. I miss how my relationship with my fiance use to be. And I don't like how this pregnancy is affecting me, or our relationship. Only 204 days left! *sigh* Please let this go by quickly!!!
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